How to navigate life’s muck with grace

In the last few weeks I have been commissioned to hold compassionate space for a number of people in my life going through major trials. As I have been called to hold others at a high level of support I recognize old unhealthy habits.  In putting others before myself I have forgotten about my own needs. Instead of judging the emotions that appear to be negative I recognize them for what they are and allow them to signal a shift.

After spending the morning supporting others I went home feeling stress, anger and frustration. With an afternoon free I decided to dedicate the second half of my day to myself. I committed to spending time outdoors and disconnecting from electronic devices. Moving from one thing to another led me to believe I had everything under control when in reality I had fallen into the chaos of everyone else’s shit and had forgotten to pause.

While re-grounding through spending time outdoors, I finally had a moment to pause and recognize how overwhelming life had been lately. The methodic practice of weeding my garden put me in a meditative place allowing me to take a step back and recognize that although I chose to support others, I must not allow their needs to come before mine.

The insight that I received:  “I’m the only one who knows what it feels like to be going through what I’m going through.  AND I’m the only one who knows what I need to take care of myself right now.”

I noticed that even though I can’t change the circumstances I can change my thought patterns. And when I change my thoughts and turn to actions of self-care my energy begins to replenish.
Recognizing that you are in a bad place and not taking any self care action to shift your sh*t will leave you in your own pile of crap!
Remember, you are the only one who chooses your thoughts.

Simple steps to shift your story:

  1. Awareness of emotion:  “What am I feeling?”
  2. Acknowledge the emotion: “I’m feeling angry and helpless.”
  3. Ask yourself what would I rather feel?  “I’d rather feel calm and compassionate.”
  4. What one action/thought can I take to shift from anger and helplessness? “I can stop re-playing the story in my mind that is creating this feeling because it’s keeping me stuck in the anger and helplessness.”  The awareness to stop playing the story over and over in your mind is a big step.
  5. I can ask myself : “What one action can I take to be more compassionate right now?”
  6. Listen to the answer to the question:  “I will turn off my electronic devices, soothe myself with weeding the garden, and shifting my mind to the present task of pulling the next weed.”
  7. Commit to taking that step and witness how your emotional energy changes.

I invite you to pause right now and think of an area in your life that is causing you stress or discomfort and remember you are the only one who knows what if feels like, and you are the only one with the power to shift it with your own awareness and permission to take a step toward a different feeling.

I would love to hear your story on how you shifted your sh*t through awareness and self care.

Susie Raymond
Emotional Empowerment Life Coach, Reiki Master/Teacher, Esthetician, Breath work Teacher


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“Having known Susie for many years through the spa and through reiki, it was only by chance that I asked her to explain to me what coaching is. I was in a place in my life of uncertainty - stuck in my head as I approached several significant new transitions at once. I initially signed up with Susie for coaching on an emotional topic that concerned the aftermath of my mother’s death and how my family would cope and adjust, but when I started my sessions with Susie, I quickly realized that my sense of being stuck was much larger in scope. Through my sessions with Susie, I found myself able to articulate some key areas in my life that needed my attention before I could move forward. With Susie’s coaching, I developed new pathways for myself that have led me to an overall happier, and clearer place, than the one from where I began.
The power of coaching lies in the ability to look inward and recognize that sometimes it only takes a relatively small shift in thinking to move you from a place of uncertainty to a place of clarity. The virtue of the coach is the ability to listen intently and work with you to help you answer questions you would almost never think to ask yourself, to spot the hidden treasures within the words that you are speaking to her in your conversations and point them out to you so that you, yourself, can be the architect of a new, clearer pathway for yourself. Susie has been this coach for me. I invite you to experience whether she can also be this coach for you.”

— Maya, Mequon

“When I first met Susie, I felt overwhelmed with despair and was constantly on the verge of tears. I knew I wanted to be happy but I could neither visualize nor verbalize what I wanted in my life. I felt stuck, and I wanted nothing more than to discover my life’s purpose. In a relatively short period of time (only 3 months or so), Susie was able to guide me down an inner path that would help me “open up” to all sorts of possibilities for myself. Through her encouragement, positive energy, gentle voice, welcoming studio, and arguably most importantly, her angel cards, I learned to trust my instincts, act on my gut feelings, and “go forward fearlessly”. I consider Susie to be an angel here on earth, and I am so very happy to have met her. Her influence in my life has helped propel me forward with renewed confidence, strength, and happiness. Thank you so much, Susie!! ”

— Amy, Milwaukee

“How is it I am carrying around so much negativity? Why can’t I move forward? Why can’t I feel happier and free? These were questions in my daily thought process until I sought out Life Coach, Susie Raymond. My personal experience with Susie was so beneficial to my well-being. She helped me change my way of thinking through methods that work best for me. Life Coaching is a commitment that is worth putting in the time for the best results. I had no idea the transformation I was going through as it was happening but my approach now in daily life is more positive, happier and free. Susie has helped me unleash my higher self, which is taking me further in life. ”

— Lisa Gabriel

"I had the incredible opportunity to be coached by Susie. Throughout our sessions, she showed up in her natural state of authenticity, compassion, and honesty. She created and held a safe space for me to share my thoughts, fears, sadness, and any other emotions I was harboring. Susie listened with no judgment, and her guidance always coming from a place of love and acceptance, especially in those times she invited me to explore parts of myself that were raw or uncomfortable. Her reflections and feedback were always spot on, helping me to see where I was limiting myself from living my best life. As I made each shift, Susie was the first one to celebrate, reminding me of the importance of acknowledging myself along the way. I highly recommend Susie to anyone looking for a coach to guide them to live authentically."

-Sue January 2018

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